He tracked her phone using an app, imposed curfews as to when and where she could go out and even told her what clothes she could and couldn't wear. Their relationship broke down on numerous occasions but he made promises he could change, promises he could not keep.
He had taken control of almost every aspect of her life but his wife was bravely about to take that control back.
After finally plucking up the courage to kick her abusive husband out of the flat they shared, 30-year-old Shabaz Khan refused to hand back his key, instead he drove his car into his wife who was pregnant at the time, pinning her to the shutters of a car park causing distress and bruising to her legs.
Shabaz was arrested not long after whereupon he was taken to Swinton police station for questioning but denied the incident instead blaming it upon his wife saying that she had deliberately stood in front of him as he tried to drive away.
He was released on bail but with the condition not to make contact with his estranged wife, something he also failed to do as in April of 2019 he contacted her via Facebook, it was at that point he started stalking her movements attempting to intimidate her by following her around and standing staring at her.
Khan was arrested again by police but still maintained his innocence until a week before his trial was to get underway whereupon he changed his plea and admitted to stalking and common assault upon Ms Akbar.
The court heard that he has subjected his Ms Akbar to 'a planned and premeditated campaign of intimidation.'
Shabaz apologised for his behaviour and told the court he now wished for a divorce and to move on with his life.
Khan, who is currently living in Hampshire, was spared jail by Judge Patrick Field QC who instead gave him an 18-month community order and told that he must complete 200 hours unpaid work as well as being ordered to complete a building better relationships programme. Additionally an indeterminate restraining order has been placed upon him preventing him from making contact with his estranged wife.
If you are in a similar abusive or manipulative relationship, please don't suffer alone, there are people out there who are able to help you.
The following signs will help you distinguish if you have controlling partner within your life:
Their behaviour is inconsistent and sometimes highly erratic.
They don't accept responsibility for their mistakes often blaming you for making them act the way they do.
They want you all to themselves and don't want you to give attention to anyone else, especially those they perceive as a threat to their relationship.
They want to change you and mould you into what they want you to be and not what YOU want to be.
They're jealous of your relationships with others, especially close friends who they will often try to drive a wedge between in order to segregate you so they can continue their controlling behaviour unchallenged.
They will often seek to isolate you from concerned family members by implying that they are trying to ruin your relationship out of jealousy.
A controlling person may put you down or make you feel stupid in order to get you to think that you need them. ... This is controlling and abusive behaviour, and you never need to put up with it. Controlling people often demean or criticise others as a means of building themselves up and appearing superior and in control.
Always remember that YOU are in control of your own life and only YOU can change it, no matter how little control you feel you may have you always have enough left to ensure that you can get help.
salford.media has compiled a list of links to services and charities who are experts in this field and will guide you through.
Edited by KARL
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